Author: RonM

Life’s Storms……

My daughter recently moved with her family to Florida. I talked to her just hours before Hurricane Charley was due to hit her area. She was feeling panicky, but was confident that God would see them through this storm. There is nothing we can do to prevent the winds and rain of life’s storms from…
What are you seeking?

We are all seeking something. Is it something that will make you feel better? Better for how long? As we grow up and develop, there are needs that we have that are hopefully fulfilled by our parents, family and friends. These needs include feeling known, cared for, loved, and appreciated just for being. In a…
Take that good bonding with you!

When we think about bonding, there is a psychological term that is important. That term is “emotional object consistency”. What this means is that we experience bonding with a friend or loved one, that feeling is imprinted in us to the point that even when we are separate we can still feel the love and…
Psalm 1

Psalm 1 1 Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers. 2 But his delight is in the law of the LORD, and on his law he meditates day and night. 3 He is like…
Participate in life and Live!

We cannot grow when we no longer participate in life. When life deals its inevitable hurts into our lives and we naturally want to retreat. Our place of retreat is usually some kind of self-made dungeon where we can feel sorry for ourselves and mope in the privacy of our own dark corner of isolation.…
Does Bonding mean “Joined at the hip”?

The experience of proper bonding with another person has been for me the most enjoyable experience of my life. Too many times the baggage from past relationships or the hurtful experiences in our past drive us to improper bonding with others. This improper bonding usually develops into full blown co-dependency. In proper bonding, closeness will…
To relate or islolate?

It seems like the word that best describes my childhood is isolation. Whether I was truly isolated, or if it was simply a perceived situation I cannot say. I had older siblings, two of which had moved out by the time I was four, and two who still lived at home but were at least…
Psalm 145

Psalm 145 A psalm of praise. Of David. 1 [1] I will exalt you, my God the King; I will praise your name for ever and ever. 2 Every day I will praise you and extol your name for ever and ever. 3 Great is the LORD and most worthy of praise; his greatness no…
How I discovered the changes I needed to make in my life.

When my life was at its lowest point I had been under doctor’s care for chronic depression for three years. Long before the doctor had diagnosed depression I felt the despair that loneliness and a lack of any true bonded relationship brings. I really had no idea why I felt as bad as I did,…
The Withering Tree

Luke 13:6-8 6. Then he told this parable: “A man had a fig tree, planted in his vineyard, and he went to look for fruit on it, but did not find any. 7. So he said to the man who took care of the vineyard, ‘For three years now I’ve been coming to look for…