Author: RonM

CHANGES THAT HEAL Learning to set Boundaries Since boundaries are such an important part of developing meaningful relationships, and avoiding getting trapped in co-dependency, it is important that we learn the skills involved in setting healthy boundaries. Here is a list. Gain Awareness – Be aware of that boundary issues are important. Define who you…

Failure to set boundaries can cause vary caustic substances to build up in our lives. These include Depression, Panic, Resentment, Passive-Aggressive Behavior, Codependency, Identity Confusion, Difficulties with Aloneness, Masochism, Victim Mentality, Blaming, Overresponsibility, Guilt, Underresponsibility, Feelings of Obligation, Feelings of being Let Down, Isolation, Extreme Dependency, Disorganization, Lack of Direction, Substance Abuse, Eating Disorders, Procrastination,…

If you have a son or daughter living at home long after the age they should be independent, you need to ask yourself “why?”. With the affluence of our society, it’s often easy to allow them to live at home spending our money rather than pushing them out of the nest on their own. Take…

Have you ever driven through a neighborhood where there were no fences between properties? I was looking at one today. Each house had a little island of play toys for the kids (swing set, jungle gym, kid swimming pool, etc) centered in the middle of each yard. This looked a bit odd to me since…

Those of us who are old enough to remember the comedian Flip Wilson know that his most famous line is “The devil made me do it”. This is very much how many people lead their lives. Having good boundaries not only means that you know who you are, but you know that you have full…

CHANGES THAT HEAL I have to sadly admit that the first time I heard a talk on boundaries it all went over my head, and I didn’t get a thing about the subject. Happily this is no longer true. The reason that the subject sounded so foreign to me was that I was in a…