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Thoughts, encouragement, and lessons from the recovery journey.
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Learning to Accept Both Good and Bad
What does our attitude need to be about good and bad? Imagine if when we hurt somebody else, that instead of dwelling on the badness of the situation and heaping guilt and resentment upon ourselves, we reach out of ourselves in an attitude of Godly sorrow and help the ones who are hurting. What would…
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Sorting out the Good and Bad
I have always felt that for the most part I have had a very good life. I have usually gotten the things I really wanted and things have generally always worked out for the best. My religious upbringing taught me such things as “All things work together for the good of those who love the…
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Learning to set Boundaries
CHANGES THAT HEAL Learning to set Boundaries Since boundaries are such an important part of developing meaningful relationships, and avoiding getting trapped in co-dependency, it is important that we learn the skills involved in setting healthy boundaries. Here is a list. Gain Awareness – Be aware of that boundary issues are important. Define who you…
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Failing to set Boundaries
Failure to set boundaries can cause vary caustic substances to build up in our lives. These include Depression, Panic, Resentment, Passive-Aggressive Behavior, Codependency, Identity Confusion, Difficulties with Aloneness, Masochism, Victim Mentality, Blaming, Overresponsibility, Guilt, Underresponsibility, Feelings of Obligation, Feelings of being Let Down, Isolation, Extreme Dependency, Disorganization, Lack of Direction, Substance Abuse, Eating Disorders, Procrastination,…
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Own your Behaviors, Thoughts, Abilities and Choices
If you have a son or daughter living at home long after the age they should be independent, you need to ask yourself “why?”. With the affluence of our society, it’s often easy to allow them to live at home spending our money rather than pushing them out of the nest on their own. Take…
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Well defined Boundaries
Have you ever driven through a neighborhood where there were no fences between properties? I was looking at one today. Each house had a little island of play toys for the kids (swing set, jungle gym, kid swimming pool, etc) centered in the middle of each yard. This looked a bit odd to me since…
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Romans- Revised for Recovery!
During a morning’s devotional this week, it came to me that many of us have trouble relating to bible-speak terminology at times, but not with the language of recovery. It comes second nature for many of us and has so much meaning to us. Well, the Lord gave me permission to do a little word…
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Responsible Boundaries
Those of us who are old enough to remember the comedian Flip Wilson know that his most famous line is “The devil made me do it”. This is very much how many people lead their lives. Having good boundaries not only means that you know who you are, but you know that you have full…
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What are boundaries?
CHANGES THAT HEAL I have to sadly admit that the first time I heard a talk on boundaries it all went over my head, and I didn’t get a thing about the subject. Happily this is no longer true. The reason that the subject sounded so foreign to me was that I was in a…
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Keep doin’ what you are doin’
Colossians 3 Rules for Holy Living 1 Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. 2 Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3 For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in…